I recently had the opportunity to do another podcast show with Dr. Paul. On the show we discussed a book called “The Female Brain” by Dr. Louann Brizendine. I fell in love with this book about a year ago and think that this book contains important and helpful information for both men and women. Enjoy the show!
Building Lasting Self Esteem March 25, 2008
Hey everybody! I wanted you to check out this interview that I did with Dr. Paul last fall. He just let me know that this has been the most popular download on his podcast. Check it out and let me know what you think!
You can also check out the other shows he has done at www.liveonpurposeradio.com
Insurance and Infertility May 6, 2010
I am so sorry I have been absentee for so long! I have really missed posting here. I appreciate everyone’s emails, comments and support. This has been such a privilege for me to do this website.
Lately, I have had many friends attempt IVF and some have been successful and some have not. If it not being successful isn’t hard enough, you end up being stuck with this huge bill since most insurance companies don’t pay for it and it is all for nothing. At least, that is what it can feel like.
I found this article online and wanted to share it with you guys so that you can help your own congressmen be aware of the importance and need for insurance companies to help out with infertility treatments. I was so excited to see this article and really hope that we can move things forward with this.
Here is the link: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/187328.php
Truth & Honesty about Infertility- spoken by someone who knows November 9, 2009
Today, I wanted to post a blog address and entry for you to read over. This is from a dear friend of mine who I love and respect so much. I have valued her friendship and support for so long along this road of infertility and therefore I wanted to pay tribute to her. In this entry, she is honest, open and truthful about her journey of infertility. I am so proud of her for speaking out and sharing her journey. Nothing is more inspiring to me than honesty and truth about where you are at in life and how you are feeling about this experience of infertility. I truly believe honesty and opening up is powerful. Thank you Ranie for your words and experience. Please enjoy!
http://www.colinandranie.blogspot.com/ The entry I’m speaking of is the one entitled, “Confessions, are you ready for this?”
Becomming a Parent November 2, 2009
I’ve recently spent time talking with friends and clients about what the definition of “parent” means. All too often, we get thinking that “parenting” means “giving birth” and it doesn’t. I’ve talked with many adoptive parents and children of adoptive parents over the years and have found absolutely no difference between the definitions or the meaning behind this word.
I know the heartache of never bearing children is very prominent for many and I would never take that away from any of us. However, I do believe that becomming a parent comes in many different faces and phases of life. In August at the National FSA Conference that I spoke at, I was inspired by how many parents became parents and how.
No child that enters into any one of our lives, would see us differently if they knew we loved them and were going to care for them for the rest of their lives. They would see any one of us as a parent. I hope that we will all be able to remember that and take the next step in our journey so that we may be able to “become parents.”
I’d love your thoughts and definitions of what a parent is if any of you would like to comment, I will post them here too. I think your support and ideas of this, could help many so feel free to post.
Wemberly Worried October 19, 2009
This is the cutest book ever! The author is Kevin Henkes. As a counselor, I often find myself using this book as a great guide to help children and their parents talk about anxiety and how to work through facing our fears. Months ago, I posted a video called “Facing Our Giants” and I really think it is inspiring. This book is the same for me just on a more “kid-friendly” level. I have noticed that although we may pass through different phases of infertility and the many different emotions that accompany infertility, one does stay constant. That is fear or worry. I think after being told bad news for so long, you really start to get used to the idea of hearing bad news. This doesn’t bode well for moving ahead without fear, panic or worry does it? Anyway, I have multiple postings about facing fears and overcoming fear to move on in the next step of your personal infertility journey and I just thought I would once again, remind you of that.
No stage in this journey is easy or without fear. It just changes faces is all. We all need the support and care from others to help us along in our journey. Keep supporting others and yourself! Go look through Wemberly Worried – you’ll love it too!
Interesting take on Infertility and Procedures – don’t you think? October 12, 2009
I recently read over this and couldn’t really believe what I was reading. What a weird take on infertility and the medical treatment that this woman received. She almost seems unhappy about the path she took in order to have her biological children! I will list the post below for you to read and give your own feedback on.
I just seriously feel so lucky that we live in a time where medical procedures like IVF is possible, let alone successful for the most part. The article talks about all the difficulties associated with IVF and the babies care after birth. Well, seriously if you didn’t know that before you entered into this process, you don’t deserve to have done IVF. Of course, there are risks and challenges but come on! the ability to even be able to possibly have a child when years ago would have been impossible is a simple miracle! I am so grateful for this miracle in my life and hope that those of you who take this path, will be grateful for the outcome!
www.nytimes.com/2009/10/11/health/11infertility.html and if for some reason this link isn’t working you can find the article at www.nytimes.com and look for the article title: 21st Century Babies: The Gift of Life & Its Price.
Different package than expected September 23, 2009
I don’t know about you, but I often feel like what I expected doesn’t actually happen most of the time. I was talking with a close friend of mine the other day who is just getting ready to do their first round of IVF. She expressed how she is concerned that her expectation of IVF and the outcome might not match up. And quite honestly, she is right! Nothing is ever guaranteed. I wish I could answer why things progress for some and why it doesn’t for others. She also expressed to me that she felt guilty about feeling like she wanted to do IVF before they considered adoption. Why guilt? Why should there be guilt there for a wonderful choice and decision? Why is fear more present than faith and belief?
Yet for most of us, it is. Fear always wins. I’ve posted many entries about the differences between faith and fear and the fact that they cannot exist together. Another thought I would love to share while going through this journey with you and feeling these same things is that you have to choose. Choose an option and move ahead – don’t doubt it or feel guilty about it. Next, if your option comes in a different package than you expected or even wanted – work on embracing it instead of shunning it. I heard a religious quote once that I loved that says, “calmness is the way that we show that we are trusting in God”
I know this is a horrible time for most going through this. Yet, our reaction to it is what I truly believe is the miracle of this. Infertility is random but our reaction to it is individual.
One last closing quote I wanted to share about this topic is by Albert Einstein. I love him because my husband loves him. It says, “There are only two ways to live… one is as though nothing is a miracle… the other is as if everything is.”